This was 46 years ago.

YES, you are right. I will not defend the mindset of that time — only be grateful for the changes we have made and continue to make on that front. Unfortunately, when your medical situations are dire and someone needs to speak for you, if you are married, that person is your spouse. I do not know if my mother was able to speak for herself in this moment — but I suspect they asked him first. (Don’t get me started on that.)

I chose to interpret the positives from the story, but could also have written this as a feminism article.

I am sorry you could not find value in this story but I thank you for reading.

Whether it is perfect, or not, this is my story, and my truth, and my history. I wanted to honor it from my father’s perspective — the terrible choice he was given.

𝘐 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘺 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭-𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘳. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘫𝘢𝘮.

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